Understanding Different Parenting Approaches

As we transition from celebrating Mother’s Day to Father’s Day, we acknowledge May as Prepare Tomorrow’s Parents Month. It’s a time to reflect on the deep significance of parenthood and to concentrate on equipping future generations with essential skills. Parenthood is one of life’s most profound journeys, yet many venture into it unprepared. Parenting is a journey filled with choices, challenges, and ultimately, consequences.

Psychologists and researchers have identified various parenting styles that significantly influence the development and well-being of our children. From the pioneering work of Diana Baumrind in the 1960s to contemporary trends, the landscape of parenting styles continues to evolve.
Baumrind’s research identified three primary parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive.
Each style reflects different approaches to discipline, communication, and expectations within the parent-child relationship. Further research by Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin in the 1980s introduced a fourth parenting style: neglectful.

The Authoritarian parent establishes strict rules and expects unwavering obedience from their children. The outcome of this parenting style often leads to poor academic achievement and increased symptoms of depression.

Permissive parents adopt a lenient attitude, often avoiding confrontation and granting developmentally inappropriate freedom to their children. This style correlates with issues such as low self-control, diminished self-esteem, and heightened aggression.

Neglectful parents demonstrate a lack of engagement and responsiveness to their children’s needs, this parenting style is associated with children who have difficulty developing healthy emotional coping mechanisms and may have both academic and social challenges.

Authoritative parents set clear boundaries and prioritize open communication and responsiveness to their child’s needs. Research has consistently shown that authoritative parenting is associated with positive developmental outcomes for children resulting in greater emotional stability, adaptive coping strategies, and higher levels of life satisfaction.

Over time, societal shifts and cultural dynamics have given rise to new parenting paradigms. Enter the era of helicopter parenting, characterized by over-involvement and excessive intervention in children’s lives. These well-meaning but overbearing parents shield their children from failure, discomfort, and challenges, inadvertently hindering their development of resilience and problem-solving skills.

In contrast to the helicopter approach, other contemporary parenting styles emphasize empathy, connection, and mutual respect. Attachment parenting, gentle parenting, conscious parenting, and responsive parenting are among the emerging models. While each of these styles may have unique nuances, they generally align with the principles of authoritative parenting, emphasizing clear expectations, nurturing emotional intelligence and healthy boundaries.

Parenting is a dynamic process shaped by individual temperament, cultural values, and situational factors. Effective parenting involves ongoing reflection, flexibility, and the willingness to adapt to the evolving needs of children as they grow and develop.

As we celebrate Prepare Tomorrow’s Parents Month, let’s acknowledge the importance of equipping future generations with the tools they need to navigate the complex journey of parenthood. By instilling essential parenting skills early on and fostering a culture of support and understanding we can create a more inclusive and empathetic society, where parents feel supported rather than judged.

If you are navigating the world of parenting, and seeking support,
Moose Jaw Family Services is here to help.

Email:  contact@mjfamilyservice.ca

Did you know that the entire month of May is dedicated to Better Speech and Hearing? During May, the hearing care industry makes a special effort to educate the public about hearing loss. Helen Keller once said that of all her sensory deprivations, she most missed her ability to hear. She noted that while blindness kept her separate from things, hearing loss separated her from people. Hearing impairment not only affects your ability to understand speech, but it also has a negative impact on your social and emotional well-being, as you struggle to carry on meaningful conversations and avoid activities.

Regular exercise offers boundless mental health benefits. It’s not just about physical fitness; it’s a potent tool for stress regulation. Engaging in exercise triggers the release of mood-boosting neurotransmitters like endorphins, dopamine, and oxygen, fostering a sense of well-being. When complemented with other treatments, exercise proves invaluable in alleviating symptoms of various mental health conditions such as depression and ADHD. Specifically, interval training, combining cardio with recovery workouts, emerges as particularly effective in enhancing mental health and overall well-being. By prioritizing exercise, you not only improve your physical health but also nurture a resilient and balanced mind.

We offer numerous fantastic opportunities for our volunteers to enhance the lives of shelter pets while also boosting their own mental and physical well-being! Whether you’re walking a dog to improve cardiovascular health and muscle tone or indulging in some cat cuddling to reduce blood pressure and promote calmness, there’s something for everyone. Giving your time and energy to volunteer not only helps pets awaiting adoption but also brings a deeper sense of fulfillment and satisfaction to your life. If you’re eager to get involved, please visit www.mjhs.ca and complete a volunteer application.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention month.

What is sexual assault?

Sexual assault refers to sexual behavior that occurs without the clear consent of the victim. According to the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN), this includes:

• Attempted rape
• Fondling or unwanted sexual touching
• Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts
• Sex without consent or sexual acts continuing after consent has been revoked.

1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men report experiencing an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. Women in college are 3 times more likely to be victims of sexual assault than women in general, 1 in 2 transgender people are victims of sexual assault and Indigenous peoples are 2 times more likely to be victims of sexual assault compared to other races.

How does sexual assault impact mental health?

Sexual assault can have short and long-term effects on the victim’s mental health. Many survivors report flashbacks of their assault, and feelings of shame, isolation, shock, confusion, and guilt. Victims of sexual assault are at an increased risk for developing the following: depression, anxiety, PTSD, substance use disorders, and eating disorders.

How can you support a loved one who has been a victim of sexual assault?

1.) Express care and concern – here are four messages that you can say that may help:

• I believe you.
• The assault was not your fault.
• Help is available.
• You are not alone.

2.) Believe them – make it clear you believe the assault happened and assure them it is not their fault. Never ask “why” questions.

3.) Give them the space they need – let the survivor tell you how they feel and give them the space to share their story, but without feeling like they have to.

4.) Let them know they do not have to go through this alone – provide appropriate resources and support them in contacting the Sexual Assault Crisis Line and/or other supports to access medical attention, available resources, and information.

5.) Encourage immediate medical attention – sexual assault victims ideally should seek medical attention within the first 24-36 hours after the assault, as they could have unknown internal or external injuries. In addition, hospital staff such as the Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE) are trained to collect, preserve, and document any physical evidence of the assault.

6.) Give the victim a sense of control – all control has been taken away from the victim. Help empower the survivor by allowing them to make decisions about what steps they want to take next.

7.) Take care of yourself and recognized your own limitations – recognize that hearing about sexual assault can be very difficult and you are going to have your own feelings, such as sadness and anger, about what has happened. This is normal, please be kind to yourself.

8.) Be patient and understanding – the trauma from sexual assault does not go away quickly, be patient in supporting your friend through this difficult time.