Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace. Here are some ways to help a loved one who is suffering: Be respectful of their coping methods. Your loved one may not have the answer when asked, “What can I do to help?” Try to spot their needs; Mow their lawn, bring in groceries, pick up the dry cleaning. There is plenty of support at first, but it will dwindle long before the need does. Let your loved one know that you are aware that they are still in pain, and continue to “be there for them” as long as it takes.