Being able to say no sometimes is an important adult skill. Asserting yourself is helpful for personal growth — but not always easy! Sometimes we can be afraid to threaten our relationships by saying what we want or need. It can be hard to find the confidence to rock the boat a bit, and harder to practice those skills. But setting boundaries in relationships gives you the space to be yourself — plus better well-being and health, and better ability to connect in ways you want. Finding confidence, the right phrase, good support, and then practicing are all helpful. Counselling can give you a neutral, safe place to work this out.