As parents, we naturally want our children to value giving and develop a sense of gratitude. We hope they’ll focus on simple joys over material things and appreciate the sentiment behind a gift rather than its price. Yet, when the holiday season arrives, we sometimes find ourselves frustrated, feeling our children aren’t “grateful enough.” But before we can encourage gratitude in them, it’s important to look within: are we actively cultivating that same mindset ourselves?
Our children learn best from what they see us do. If we want to inspire them to live with gratitude and kindness, we need to nurture these values in ourselves. Gratitude is a lifelong practice, a habit of seeing the positive and taking a few moments daily to recognize what’s good in our lives. As we become more mindful of our own gratitude, it naturally flows into the way we interact with our children.
The holiday season is an ideal time to deepen our own appreciation. By focusing on gratitude, we connect more deeply with what we truly value. Here are some ways to cultivate and model a spirit of gratefulness and generosity so that our children can see these values in action.
Practicing Gratitude and Giving Thanks in the Moment
Gratitude begins with an inward focus. Taking a few moments each day to reflect on the things we’re thankful for can gradually reshape our perspective. Start small by noting three things that bring you joy or comfort—a warm drink, a friendly smile, or time with loved ones. These reflections help us value experiences and relationships over things.
When we model this practice, our children witness a quiet, authentic gratitude—no lectures needed. They see us finding contentment in simple moments, understanding that gratitude is not a once-a-year event but a way of seeing the world.
Focusing on Our Own Giving
Engaging in thoughtful giving demonstrates the joy of generosity. Acts like volunteering or creating a homemade gift show children how giving can come from a place of thoughtfulness rather than obligation. Sharing why these acts are meaningful helps them understand the value of kindness.
Encouraging Simple Joys Over Material Gifts
The holidays often bring the temptation to buy and accumulate. Instead, we can choose to prioritize experiences and connection. Making gifts together, baking treats, or decorating as a family brings simplicity to the season and strengthens bonds. By celebrating small acts of togetherness, we remind ourselves—and our children—that it’s not the gifts under the tree that matter most.
Embracing Imperfection
While we aim to focus on gratitude, it’s also okay to get caught up in the holiday excitement now and then. The commercial side of Christmas is all around us, and it’s normal for kids—and us—to be swept up in it. Give yourself and your family some grace when things get hectic. The season is about kindness and joy, including being kind to ourselves.
