When we meet someone and fall in love, we often put that person on a pedestal…only seeing their best qualities, and unable to see the bigger picture of who they are. We all do this. As long as we remember that no one is “perfect” (I always say “perfect” is someone you don’t know well) and the pedestal phase of a relationship is just that, a “phase” that helps open our hearts to bond and connect. Everyone has their strengths and blind spots, so when we hold the illusion that someone can do no wrong, we don’t allow room for their humanness to emerge. Over time, the pedestal does not last and we become disillusioned and hurt with the very qualities we once admired. When we can embrace their shadow side and our own idealized projection, we can begin creating a deeper connection and intimacy.

D’Arcy Bruning-Haid, Souls-Journey.com