What Grieving People Wish You Knew. By Nancy Guthrie. When someone is grieving we want to help but sometimes we stay away or stay silent, afraid that we will do or say something that will hurt instead of help. Drawing upon the input of hundreds of grieving people, as well as her own experience of grief, Nancy offers specifics on what to say and what not to say, and what to do and what to avoid. Tackling touchy topics like talking about heaven, navigating interactions on social media, this book will equip you to support those who are grieving with wisdom and love.