The Art of Choosing You: Tools to Radically Shift Your Life argues that judgment is a trap, putting us on a hamster wheel as we repeatedly strive to meet inauthentic expectations rather than finding freedom and peace through a practice the author calls “living in allowance” of ourselves and others. Judging ourselves and others by external standards can feel empowering, as if we are sorting out the world and escaping whatever fails to measure up—whether we are looking at people, situations, or activities. But judgment can hold us hostage and leave us dissatisfied with life.