When challenges override the fun in relationships, the question arises, “Is this really worth the struggle?” When you add in doubts, insecurities, and past hurts, one may question the relationship even more. In addition to regular day-to-day stressors, we wonder whether we have what it takes to live with another person or to love another being. Finding our way through the intricacies of an intimate relationship is hard work. When I sit with couples, I ask what drew them together in the first place. Answers include: “He made me laugh,” “She brought out the best in me,” or “I felt safe and at home.” The common thread in people’s answers is a feeling of connection. The simple truth is we love to love because love makes us feel our own warmth and innocence.   Love highlights our kindness, gratitude, trust, and openness. Love connects us with the things we value most; our rich, full presence with ourselves.

Caroline Bradfield, Registered Clinical Counsellor, www.comoxvalleycounselling.ca