We all need to cut ourselves some slack sometimes. But that can get away from us – compassion can seem like a loophole, a cop-out, or a way out. Then, filled with regrets, we may start self-blaming to compensate! However, real self-compassion is not an excuse – nor is self-discipline a punishment. How do you motivate yourself without being too hard or too soft? How do you operate effectively and work towards your goals? Counselling is a safe and neutral place to work out better ways to meet your commitments without hurting yourself.