We can’t control someone else’s behaviour. We don’t have the right or the power. We have to work at changing our own programming, because we often get upset when someone has a perception of us that we are uncomfortable with. We then tend to challenge that person’s perception of us. A narcissistic person loves this. It is their sign that they have you where they want you. Something amazing happens when you accept that others are allowed to have their own faulty perception of you. Here are some key phrases to experiment with: “I am sorry you feel that way.” “I can accept your faulty perception of me.” “I have no right to control how you see me.” “I guess I have to accept how you feel.” “Your anger is not my responsibility.” Take back your power!

Rev Anne Ahokangas, Centre for Spiritual Living, CSLWinnipeg.org