Being in love is the best. But people don’t always get along easily. It can be hard to be clear and stand up for what we want in a calm way when we feel unhappy. Sometimes we give up too much to keep the peace. That can work in the short term, but in the long term you might feel resentful. Other people get angry really quickly – again, it can work in the short term, but may not work forever. Sometimes we need help figuring out how to ask for change. It helps to know about love languages — this is the way you like to have love shown to you. Everyone is different – some people prefer touch, or quality time, or acts of service. What are your hopes for your relationship? Counselling provides a safe and non-judgemental place to consider what else you can do to keep your relationship healthy and happy. Mary Munro, www.marymunro.ca