Learning to fight fairly can make or break a relationship. The harmony of any relationship isn’t based on how well you manage the good times, but how you work through the conflict that arises in a healthy and respectful way. All relationships over time have conflict, disappointment and frustration. Some people tend to avoid conflict and sweep it under the rug, others gas light it to a roaring fire. When we create guidelines and agreements to work through conflict before it begins, it creates a road map that decreases criticism and defensiveness, allowing emotions to be heard and expressed safely.