Given my personal experiences and background as a clinical social worker I’ve come to understand what I believe is the meaning of healing. It’s not about mending bones and strengthening muscles, it’s about a form of acceptance I’ve come to know as “sweet surrender”. What exactly is “sweet surrender”? A recent article in Psychology Today (April 2016 Toni Bernhard) describes it nicely in terms of “giving in”: giving in brings relief from the exhausting (and ultimately losing) battle against the turn your life has taken. It makes you feel better, both mentally and physically, to never side against yourself. You could turn that into a vow: “I will never side against myself.” There’s no reason to jump to the conclusion that chronic illness (which includes chronic pain) has ruined your life. A good life can take many forms. Try giving in—gently and with kindness—to what you cannot control.

Rod Chant MSW RSW RCC – Comox Valley Counselling Services
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