There are many tools we can offer our children to deal with sad and unhappy feelings that may come from loss, being bullied, or experiencing disappointment. Instead of giving them reasons why they should not cry, we need to offer them the chance to use words to express their feelings. We must do this without analysis, criticism, or judgment. It might be tempting to fall back on offering logical and intellectual reasons why they shouldn’t feel bad. But we must let them express their pain in order to help them move beyond the loss, rather than internalize their feelings.