Charles Darwin once said: “It’s not the strongest or the most intelligent that survive, but those who are most adaptable to change”. Control is an illusion that we all wrestle with in our own way. The “good” and the “not so good” comes and goes in everyone’s life, with the only real constant being change. One of the biggest source of unhappiness lies in not being able to adapt to the change that comes into our lives. When we dwell and cling to the dissappointment of unmet expectations of what was supposed to happen but didn’t see coming, it makes it more difficult to adapt, shift and change course. Being able to shift gears, grieve and welcome new direction and possibility opens flow. What we choose to focus on affects our happiness and how empowered we feel in the world.