Imagine this… You’ve walked into your counsellor’s office with your partner, you’re feeling nervous but confident that with some help, you and your Most Important Person are getting back on track, and “boom!” Your partner drops the “Trust Bomb” onto the table. Be honest, would you like to simply say “I’m sorry” and move on? Though saying “I’m sorry” may help. Unfortunately, it’s generally not that simple. Trust is about putting in the time. It’s built on consistent, ongoing interactions that say over and over again, day after day, “I’ve got your back,” “I see you,” “You matter.” As humans, we like to know we matter! With our Most Important People, trust tells us we are emotionally and physically safe. And when we start here, good things can happen.

Caroline Bradfield, MaCP, RCC, Comox Valley Family Counselling, www.comoxvalleycounselling.com